Do narcissists love their children?
Last Updated: 19.06.2025 12:59
I was too young to understand how my mother was insanely jealous.
I, too, heard a lot of "I wish I never had children," and, "Your father loves you more than he loves me."
If an NPD mother does love her children, it's for what they bring to her, and I felt that I brought her nothing but pain and shame after I was finally born.
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So I don't understand how my mother looked at motherhood. I don't understand how she could look at a baby and it not be "hers" anymore. I was no more than an obligation, a millstone around her neck.
My mother once said, "You'll see this happen when you have a baby: when the baby is inside of you, it's all yours. Once you give birth, the baby isn't yours anymore. It's everybody else's."
With my first pregnancy, I was terrified this would happen. It never did. With my second son, I was terrified I wouldn't have enough love for both children. As my friend Rae explained, "love just multiplies." It sure did!
I'll never say as she did, “I wish I never had kids.” That's just too cruel to understand.